Talk to yourself as if you were your own best friend
The person that you spend the most time with is YOU – and you are also the person that you talk the most to! This makes you an ‘easy’ target to influence – have you ever thought about that?
Think about the way you talk to yourself – do you talk to yourself in a positive manner all the time – lifting yourself up at all times? Or maybe – if you are like most people (including myself) you sometimes criticise yourself, speak poorly or even call yourself names…!?
Another question – would you speak to a friend like you speak to yourself?
If the answer is ‘no’ then you need to start being aware of it.
Negative self-talk can creep up easily and is often hard to notice. You might think I’m so bad at this or I shouldn’t have tried that. But these thoughts turn into internalised feelings and might cement your conceptions of yourself.
When you catch yourself doing this, stop and replace those negative messages with positive ones.
For example, ‘I’m so bad at this’ becomes ‘Once I get more practice, I’ll be way better at this.’
‘I shouldn’t have tried’ becomes ‘That didn’t work out as planned—I’ll do better next time.’
When you tell yourself – ‘I just can’t do it’ it becomes ‘I just can’t do it – YET’
That little word is MAGIC – put it at the end of all the things that you tell yourself that limit you – because it tells your brain that this is NOT definite – you are actually in the process of LEARNING.
Most of all – speak to yourself as if your were your own best friend!